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Applying for a job or asking for a promotion isn’t easy. In fact, simply discussing a future promotion is daunting. Talking the talk and playing the corporate political game comes easy to some. Though other employees may be just as deserving, they may not care to master the art of “tooting one’s own horn,” which makes it hard to get ahead.
It’s a rough feeling being rejected. It’s tough being told “no.” It’s taken personally to the point of people thinking that they’re not good enough.
Being rejected does not equal not good enough.
Interviewing for a company where you feel you’d be the perfect fit and thrive in your career is anxiety-inducing. Feeling good about that interview after, even more so. Then, you get the dreaded job rejection email. The notification bubble pops up on your phone and you open it with your heart racing. You skim the first sentence and your heart sinks. They decided to move forward with other candidates.
Rejection is such a crappy feeling, but you know what? Job rejection is not the end of the world even if it feels like it is at the time. Do what you need to do heal from your job rejection depression. Chow down on a carb-filled dinner and enjoy that extra glass of wine. As the negative feelings subside, consider those rejections as “practice” interviews. Other job opportunities will come along soon.
There isn’t Only Rejection
I did a thing. Knowing that rejection was a great possibility, I reached out to one of my old Upwork clients asking if they were in need of writer. In case they weren’t, I added a line asking them to keep me in mind for future openings. That last piece was my self-doubt kicking in.
Well, guess what happened?
The client responded and let me know that they’d be in touch the following week as it would be the start of the new quarter. I waited patiently and sure enough, at the start of the work week, I heard from my contact. I received a new contract WITH a pay increase. Even better? With my current full-time job, I had mentioned that I couldn’t handle more than 2-3 articles a month depending on the amount of research involved and length. They accommodated my request.
There’s no harm in asking. The worst they can do is say is no.Them
Please don’t be a “them.”
I am loaded with anxiety. Making a request to a client or employer is a HUGE first for me to say the least. I question and overthink all possibilities beforehand and typically talk myself out of that “crazy” idea. Somehow, in this case, I shoved those worries and insecurities aside and asked.
Interviewing or asking for a specific career move is certainly easier said than done for many, myself included. There are so many situations I can look back on and think, “What would have been the outcome had I done [blank]?” Overthinking and anxiety set in, then finally self-doubt. Eventually, I psyched myself out.
This post sounds as though it has a lot of negativity, but my point is, do your best to work through your fears and anxiety. The outcome may be different than what you expect. Interview the best you can. Ask for what you believe you deserve. And most importantly, do not give up.